Mom Leaves a Note on Her “Disrespectful” Son’s Door—Now It’s Going Viral
Parenting a teenager is rarely a smooth ride. Between the mood swings, newfound independence, and occasional backtalk, even the most patient parents can feel like they’re living with a moody roommate instead of their own child.
For Heidi Johnson, a single mom from Alaska, that reality came crashing down one afternoon in 2015 when her 13-year-old son, Aaron, crossed a line she couldn’t ignore. Instead of raising her voice or grounding him, Heidi decided to send her message in a different way—a way that would soon be read by millions of people around the world.
The Breaking Point
It all began when Aaron started treating their home less like a family space and more like a hotel where he believed the rules didn’t apply to him. He had been making a little money from his YouTube channel and, according to Heidi, had recently become “mouthy, defiant, and disrespectful.”
On this particular day, an argument escalated over chores and privileges. Aaron insisted that because he was earning his own money, he could do whatever he pleased. He ignored her requests to help around the house and acted as though she had no authority over him.
Heidi took a deep breath. Yelling, she knew, would only make things worse. Instead, she went to her desk, pulled out a piece of paper, and began to write.
The Letter That Started It All
The letter began formally, as if addressing a tenant rather than a child:
“Dear Aaron,
Since you seem to have forgotten that you are only 13, and I’m the parent, and since you have decided you no longer need my guidance, it’s time for a lesson in independence.
If you want to be treated like a grown man who doesn’t have to follow my rules, then you will need to take on the responsibilities of one. Starting today, you will pay rent, utilities, and for your own food.”*
She went on to list his “fees” in detail: