I always thought I was a good dad—not perfect, but present. Liana, my twelve-year-old, was born on a stormy night, and I’ve felt like I’ve been running through thunderstorms ever since. Her mom, Dana, left when Liana was six, claiming she needed to “find herself.” I didn’t chase her; I was too busy learning to braid hair and buying school supplies that didn’t scream “dad picked this out.” Now Liana’s growing up fast. She’s into true crime podcasts and can read people like a pro.

That night, she got sick—skipping dinner and shivering on the bathroom floor despite a blanket. I stayed by her side, laying down next to her without hesitation. She whispered, “Thanks for staying,” and I replied, “Always,” meaning it with everything I had. Around 3 a.m., she told me her mom had called, asking to talk but only to her. I wasn’t angry—just a little ache in my chest.

Dana had been out of the picture for months and now Liana had questions. She said Dana might visit, but wasn’t sure if she wanted to. I reassured her that whatever she chose, I’d be there. Two weeks later, Dana flew in. We met at a park, and I watched from a distance as Liana and Dana reconnected.

Afterward, Liana shared how Dana smelled like jasmine and coffee, but things were different now. Liana didn’t fully trust her yet, and that was okay. I reminded her she didn’t need to know everything right away. Liana still talks to her mom from her room, but no secrets, just honesty.

That night on the bathroom floor taught me something crucial—sometimes, the best thing you can do for someone is just to be there. No lectures, no shields—just your presence. When your kid pulls away, sometimes all you need to do is not move. Would you lie down on the bathroom floor too?