Did you know that more than a third of parents who create wills intend to distribute their assets unevenly among their children? Many parents might not allocate any inheritance to their kids, instead choosing to pass on their belongings to individuals they believe are more deserving. In this narrative, a mother considers her daughter’s ex-husband a more fitting recipient for her wealth, but the situation is more complex than it appears.
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The daughter shares, “When my mom fell ill, I was the only one who remained by her side.
My brothers moved on with their lives, but I reshaped mine to care for her. I cooked, cleaned, managed her medications, and oversaw all her appointments. Initially, my ex-husband, Aaron, was supportive.
We were still married when she received her diagnosis, and to be honest, she adored him. Even after our divorce (which happened after I discovered him texting another woman), he still came around occasionally, helping with repairs and keeping her company. After her passing a few months ago, I was devastated until I learned that she had left everything to him.”
My sacrifice for her care felt like betrayal.
“She didn’t leave anything for me or my brothers; it all went to my ex-husband. When I confronted him, he didn’t even attempt to deny it. He merely shrugged and said, ‘Don’t worry, your mom was under a lot of stress.
My buddy is a lawyer and assisted with the paperwork. We were just trying to make it easier for her.’
Right. His ‘buddy’?
A law school friend. It turns out, he was the one who drafted the new will and managed the property transfer, all just weeks before she passed. They convinced her it would be ‘neater this way,’ to ‘prevent family conflict’ and spare us the probate process.”
My ex transformed the family home into a rental.
“Now my ex-husband owns the house I grew up in—the one I took care of while she was ill. He has turned it into a rental property. The bedroom where I used to sit with her and soothe her to sleep during her difficult nights is now advertised online as a ‘romantic countryside getaway.’ He even had the audacity to say, ‘You can stay there anytime, free of charge.’
And I’m still stuck paying her medical bills.
I was the one washing her sheets, preparing her meals, and feeding her when she was too shaky. In the end, she placed her trust in him.”
Seek legal assistance. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Many individuals have faced similar issues with unjust wills. The best approach is to seek professional advice. Find a lawyer who specializes in estate disputes or elder law.
The fact that your ex’s friend prepared the will just weeks before your mom passed raises serious concerns. A lawyer can determine if your mother was pressured, misled, or lacked mental capacity when she signed the document. Collect any supporting information you can: medical records, witness statements (from doctors, caregivers, friends), and even past texts or emails that might reveal her true wishes.
Cut ties with your ex-husband. His offer of a “free stay” is rather insensitive. He exploited your mother’s trust and is now profiting from your family home.
It’s best to block him, sever any contact, and interact solely through attorneys if necessary. Engaging with him will only reopen old wounds. Regarding the medical bills…
You may want to hold off on payments until you consult with a lawyer.
Depending on your jurisdiction, you might not be legally liable for those bills, especially if the estate—currently under your ex’s control—should cover them. A legal expert can help you navigate this matter so you avoid paying more than necessary. You were there for your mother every step of the way.
You deserve a significant portion of her estate. It’s your right to contest the will. However, it’s worth noting that some parents opt not to leave any of their wealth to their children for various reasons, like the cases of parents who felt their son deserved all the money over their daughter.